FaceBook shaming of an overweight Busch Stadium patron.......

[Pine Tar]

I get shamed all the time on social media, it's because I'm a Cubs fan.

People even go as far as to call me Gay, F A G (<--silly swear filter) or a Homosexual. Just because the neighborhood has a large population of people who live an alternative lifestyle.

Seems silly to continually just those phrases, when talking about my alliance to my hometown sports team I root for.
It happens a lot in person as well when I travel to the south side (White Sox) or St Louis and even in Milwaukee but not as much as the first 2 mentioned, since there seems to be more Cub fans at the Brewers/ Cubs games then the home town fans

 

[Super Mario]

I get shamed all the time on social media, it's because I'm a Cubs fan.

People even go as far as to call me Gay, F A G (

I completely understand that, lol.

 

[Pine Tar]

I completely understand that, lol.

There was so much typed then you quoted and that's not even the original post. Since I'm using the app and it sucks most of the time.. I hit edit to change 2 words to the correct spelling and the sentence was the only thing that showed up and I just undone my edit and it then posted only that.

 

[jbhofmann]

Thank you.

 

[Super Mario]

There was so much typed then you quoted and that's not even the original post. Since I'm using the app and it sucks most of the time.. I hit edit to change 2 words to the correct spelling and the sentence was the only thing that showed up and I just undone my edit and it then posted only that.

No, I mean I completely understand why people would think you're gay, lol.

 

[Super Mario]

I was being facetious.

 

[Pine Tar]

No, I mean I completely understand why people would think you're gay, lol.

Is it because I would wear this?
And for the record my buddy Rick posted here in this photo just found that hat right now at a garage sale right by my house and text that over to me.

 

[jbhofmann]

I was being facetious.

lolz

Im not.

 

[gracecollector]

That hat is so GAY! As in FESTIVE! I'd fill that sucker with nachos and cheese. Then wear it on top of my tall-ass head directly in front of a section filled with a busload of kids from an orphanage, as I hold up my homemade FAT PEOPLE SUCK! posterboard.

Signed,
Super Mario

 

[Nate Colbert 17]

To say that the purpose of the original Facebook post was to encourage the lady to "get healthy" is like saying Sports Illustrated's Swimsuit issue is to encourage swimming.

"Once you go chunky, everything else is funky."

 

[bongo870]

I think in the example he gave, it's just common courtesy to look around at your surroundings and see if you will be blocking someone's view, especially a small child. I'm tall, and I always look at the row behind me before I sit down at a theater or stadium to see if there's a kid behind me, and if I can I try to sit with an adult behind me or empty seat. That's just common courtesy. But our society is sorely lacking in it these days.

And that's fine but to say that "fat or tall people" have to sit in the bleachers only is just wrong..

 

[Super Mario]

And that's fine but to say that "fat or tall people" have to sit in the bleachers only is just wrong..

If someone's too fat to fit in a seat, they have no business trying to squeeze in it.

 

[sportscardtheory]

Holy train wreck. I feel more badly for the cretins who would be so mean to someone for being bigger than the bigger person they are being mean to. At least that girl is a human being.

 

[gt2590]

I get shamed all the time on social media, it's because I'm a Cubs fan.

Not from me!

I do it 'cuz of your football's teams Quarterback...

 

[phillyfan0417]

If someone's too fat to fit in a seat, they have no business trying to squeeze in it.

Wow. You seem to have alot of issues with alot of different people.

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[Super Mario]

Wow. You seem to have alot of issues with alot of different people.

Sent from my SM-G920P using Freedom Card Board mobile app

It's physics.

A square block isn't going to fit in the circle blocks hole.


It's not about having issues with anyone. It's about the physical ability to fit. If you can't fit, you shouldn't sit.

 

[tpeichel]

It's physics.

A square block isn't going to fit in the circle blocks hole.


It's not about having issues with anyone. It's about the physical ability to fit. If you can't fit, you shouldn't sit.

If you can't fit you must acquit.

-Johnny Cochrane

 

[mchenrycards]

Holy train wreck. I feel more badly for the cretins who would be so mean to someone for being bigger than the bigger person they are being mean to. At least that girl is a human being.

The average person has zero idea how a big or fat person gets treated by the general public. To give some context....I once made a comment about being fat and someone I barely knew said that I Was not fat.....I was just a huge guy. I am very large in size even when I Was in great shape but now have added pounds and frequently get stared at, laughed at, and generally feel uncomfortable. I avoid social situations where I could be put in a situation such as this woman. Going to restaurants is always an adventure as I tend to feel like people are watching what I am eating and judge me if I get anything other than a salad. Being 6'5", I do worry about blocking people's views at movies and ball games as well as wondering if someone is going to take pictures of me like this ******* did. This type of stuff makes me avoid social situations because I just don't feel comfortable. I seriously do not need to hear another kid at Wal Mart say "mommy.....look at the fat man" as I pass by while the parent usually says "yes he sure is".

Yes, I can lose weight and have done it a number of times. No excuses. My weight has yo-yoed over the years as I fight this battle. I can tell you that shaming someone like this typically will have the opposite effect. If a large person has worked up the courage to go out in public and try to be normal and sit in a regular seat and fail just like this woman, the last thing they need is someone doing this to them. Something like this could drive them deaper into despair, kill any confidence they may have built and possibly keep them from making a change. The weight battle, just like most other addictions in mostly mental. Anything that takes someone off of their game and damages their mental edge can be detrimental and possibly, life threatening.

The sad thing about being overweight....discrimination, because of someone's weight is literally the last legal discrimination. By law, you cannot discriminate against me for any reason at all but you can based on my size. Look it up. There is no wording in any law that you cannot give me a job because you perceive me to be fat.

let me just say my size does have its advantages especially when I was younger. But Ican tell you there are so many more days than not that I wished I was 5'8" and only 175 pounds because I would just blend in and not stand above the crowd in both height and weight.

 

[Super Mario]

The average person has zero idea how a big or fat person gets treated by the general public. To give some context....I once made a comment about being fat and someone I barely knew said that I Was not fat.....I was just a huge guy. I am very large in size even when I Was in great shape but now have added pounds and frequently get stared at, laughed at, and generally feel uncomfortable. I avoid social situations where I could be put in a situation such as this woman. Going to restaurants is always an adventure as I tend to feel like people are watching what I am eating and judge me if I get anything other than a salad. Being 6'5", I do worry about blocking people's views at movies and ball games as well as wondering if someone is going to take pictures of me like this ******* did. This type of stuff makes me avoid social situations because I just don't feel comfortable. I seriously do not need to hear another kid at Wal Mart say "mommy.....look at the fat man" as I pass by while the parent usually says "yes he sure is".

Yes, I can lose weight and have done it a number of times. No excuses. My weight has yo-yoed over the years as I fight this battle. I can tell you that shaming someone like this typically will have the opposite effect. If a large person has worked up the courage to go out in public and try to be normal and sit in a regular seat and fail just like this woman, the last thing they need is someone doing this to them. Something like this could drive them deaper into despair, kill any confidence they may have built and possibly keep them from making a change. The weight battle, just like most other addictions in mostly mental. Anything that takes someone off of their game and damages their mental edge can be detrimental and possibly, life threatening.

The sad thing about being overweight....discrimination, because of someone's weight is literally the last legal discrimination. By law, you cannot discriminate against me for any reason at all but you can based on my size. Look it up. There is no wording in any law that you cannot give me a job because you perceive me to be fat.

let me just say my size does have its advantages especially when I was younger. But Ican tell you there are so many more days than not that I wished I was 5'8" and only 175 pounds because I would just blend in and not stand above the crowd in both height and weight.

This is a nicely written post.

I can't comment on everything you said, but the one thing I wanted to say is that this world just isn't designed for larger individuals, sadly. It just isn't. And it must be very difficult for someone with size to do basic everyday things.

I was at work last night, and there's this one woman there. She's probably in her early 20's, and if I had to guess I would say she's about 6'4 and around 350 pounds, or even more. And to make matters worse, she seems to have something wrong with her legs. They seem normal until they get down to her knees, and then they kind of bow out. So it looks like she's walking with her knees close together. Not to sound bad, but it looks like she is walking like her knees are buckling under her weight. I'm sure that's not the case, I think something is wrong with her legs, but that's what it looks like if you can picture it. This girl looks like she would be a large person even if she lost 200 pounds, she's just a large individual. She walked into the cafe on lunch and I told a co-worker that is has got to suck going through life like that, and not being able to enjoy the pleasures of everyday normal activities.

 

[mchenrycards]

This is a nicely written post.

I can't comment on everything you said, but the one thing I wanted to say is that this world just isn't designed for larger individuals, sadly. It just isn't. And it must be very difficult for someone with size to do basic everyday things.

I was at work last night, and there's this one woman there. She's probably in her early 20's, and if I had to guess I would say she's about 6'4 and around 350 pounds, or even more. And to make matters worse, she seems to have something wrong with her legs. They seem normal until they get down to her knees, and then they kind of bow out. So it looks like she's walking with her knees close together. Not to sound bad, but it looks like she is walking like her knees are buckling under her weight. I'm sure that's not the case, I think something is wrong with her legs, but that's what it looks like if you can picture it. This girl looks like she would be a large person even if she lost 200 pounds, she's just a large individual. She walked into the cafe on lunch and I told a co-worker that is has got to suck going through life like that, and not being able to enjoy the pleasures of everyday normal activities.

Let me just say your response is totally opposite of what I thought you would say and I appreciate the fact you were very sensitive about this issue. Thank you for that.

To your point, the world just isn't designed for larger people and as we, as a society continue to get larger these types of issues are always going to pop up. The good thing is that movie theaters are installing larger, more comfortable chairs, restaurants are not using chairs with arms as much and many places are making accommodations for larger people. But lets be honest......each of us who is overweight put ourselves there. Making these accommodations is just society's way of becoming more accepting of the fact we are all getting larger. With myself, even before I put on a good deal of weight I still had issues sitting in normal stadium or airplane seats, going to movies or many of these other things because I am just a large guy. But each person needs to look within themselves and not be satisfied with the fact that society is changing to fit us as larger people but we must all decide, for our loved ones and ourselves that just because there are larger seats does not make being fat acceptable. Don't get me wrong, it is great that these changes are being made because I literally can now sit and watch a movie with my wife but I still feel like crap when I sit there in a darkened movie theater with the arm on the chair raised so that I can fit. I just don't think a public shaming of anyone has anything but a negative effect and almost never works. It is only until that overweight person decides they make a change will change happen.

As for the woman at your work, I can guaranty her knees are hurting her from her weight. I am not sure if they are buckling because the human joint can withstand a great deal of pressure but there will be pain. Mine constantly hurt but that is from a combination of a great deal of sports I played until the age of 28 and the many injuries I received and my weight. There are many people like this woman who just would be large no matter what. As I said before, I had a flat stomach when I was at 300 pounds and I still got stares and it sounds like this woman would have the same issue. I can tell you that life is what you make it. Yeah, it sucks sometimes having to decide that you have to skip a vacation with your friends because you cannot afford two airplane seats or miss a ball game because the only seats you can get are not in the bleachers. But larger people can enjoy life but just not as fully as normal sized people but many have found fulfillment and happiness in what they do and dont hate their lives. Of course, we all want to be smaller and "blend into the background" and not be the huge person in the room but one can have a good life if they accept the fact that we will never be normal. Some are content with that, some are not. Personally, I had already made an appointment with my doctor for Monday for a physical because I am sick of this excess weight and want to start losing. I will never be normal sized and will probably always be the biggest guy in the room but if I lose 150 pounds I will be back down to 300 pounds where I was pretty dang healthy. I owe this to my family and myself and I didnt need a stranger to take a picture of me at the Brewers game I went to a few weeks ago to shame me into wanting to make a change. I KNEW I needed the change long before I entered Miller Park!

Thanks for listening guys.