I'm Done

[jubei777]

Long night on the sofa. Intense discussion from the wife when she got off work. At this point this is something that I have to stop now. No options. I have no resentment but really just at myself for letting things get out of hand. For a guy my age I would have thought that I'd have better control over this but didnt. We were suppose to head to LA for new years with friends but she said she doesn't want to stay with me at this point so I'm probably staying home with the dog.

 

[Tomlinson21RB]

The good thing about being addicted to cards over many other possible addictions, is that you still own tangible goods that have value. They may not have the same value as when you bought them, but they are worth something. Maybe you should get the process going of selling some items or starting some ebay auctions. That way you have something to show her when she gets back from LA to show that you're trying to make things right.

 

[justinmandawg]

Sounds like a bit from Eddie Murphy's Raw will be coming from this in the end. Just think Dexter.

 

[jcmint]

Why can't you recoup some dough from the cards you have now and have some cash on hand.

Long night on the sofa. Intense discussion from the wife when she got off work. At this point this is something that I have to stop now. No options. I have no resentment but really just at myself for letting things get out of hand. For a guy my age I would have thought that I'd have better control over this but didnt. We were suppose to head to LA for new years with friends but she said she doesn't want to stay with me at this point so I'm probably staying home with the dog.

 

[shepsspot]

Why can't you recoup some dough from the cards you have now and have some cash on hand.

Long night on the sofa. Intense discussion from the wife when she got off work. At this point this is something that I have to stop now. No options. I have no resentment but really just at myself for letting things get out of hand. For a guy my age I would have thought that I'd have better control over this but didnt. We were suppose to head to LA for new years with friends but she said she doesn't want to stay with me at this point so I'm probably staying home with the dog.

I was thinking the same thing? If you need help I have cash and you have some cards that I like, if you want to move any of them send me a pm and I will send a list of what I liked and try and help you out.

If not good luck with whatever happens! I hope its all good and she sees that you had a problem and you have come to your senses

Shep

 

[Tomlinson21RB]

Why can't you recoup some dough from the cards you have now and have some cash on hand.

Long night on the sofa. Intense discussion from the wife when she got off work. At this point this is something that I have to stop now. No options. I have no resentment but really just at myself for letting things get out of hand. For a guy my age I would have thought that I'd have better control over this but didnt. We were suppose to head to LA for new years with friends but she said she doesn't want to stay with me at this point so I'm probably staying home with the dog.

I was thinking the same thing? If you need help I have cash and you have some cards that I like, if you want to move any of them send me a pm and I will send a list of what I liked and try and help you out.

If not good luck with whatever happens! I hope its all good and she sees that you had a problem and you have come to your senses

Shep

There are also a few cards that I like in your bucket that I might be able to help with.

 

[AKT74]

Just ask the govenment for a bailout. You didn't come close to the evil deeds that the banks did. We should all start an online "grassroots" baseball card addicts bailout plan.

 

[jubei777]

Thanks guys. I actually have been selling a lot over the last six months on eBay to get some funds back. Still am on the process of moving some semi big cards like a Kevin Durant SPA rookie but I should be out of debt by Feb with my next two paychecks. I haven't been keeping my bucket updated since I've been selling so it's probably unlikely that I have those cards anymore. Dreading round two tonight. (un)luckily for me I still have pleanty of work at work today. For those of you who have had issues with the wife, how long did it take for life to settle down if it ever did?

 

[RL24]

Just ask the govenment for a bailout. You didn't come close to the evil deeds that the banks did. We should all start an online "grassroots" baseball card addicts bailout plan.

And here I was going to say... you think you're broke now, wait until you have to start paying for everybody's health insurance.

 

[shepsspot]

Thanks guys. I actually have been selling a lot over the last six months on eBay to get some funds back. Still am on the process of moving some semi big cards like a Kevin Durant SPA rookie but I should be out of debt by Feb with my next two paychecks. I haven't been keeping my bucket updated since I've been selling so it's probably unlikely that I have those cards anymore. Dreading round two tonight. (un)luckily for me I still have pleanty of work at work today. For those of you who have had issues with the wife, how long did it take for life to settle down if it ever did?

It never does! There is always something you are going to do wrong .

I love my wife and we have been together for 15 years now with two great kids, but there is always something I could have or done different!

Shep

 

[js0000001]

My wife knows I have a problem with cards

But her problems are worse so she doesn't say anything

 

[mburgin]

Thanks guys. I actually have been selling a lot over the last six months on eBay to get some funds back. Still am on the process of moving some semi big cards like a Kevin Durant SPA rookie but I should be out of debt by Feb with my next two paychecks. I haven't been keeping my bucket updated since I've been selling so it's probably unlikely that I have those cards anymore. Dreading round two tonight. (un)luckily for me I still have pleanty of work at work today. For those of you who have had issues with the wife, how long did it take for life to settle down if it ever did?

it doesn't. the best thing to do is be honest when she asks something that way if she ever brings it back up she knows everything up front. i've been married for 18 years now and stuff like this always happens. there is no such thing as a perfect relationship and i think argueing is actually healthy to one as it gets stuff out in the open. i always tell people i didn't stay married for 18 years by being stupid. as far as the cards go, i've been where you are at but luckily my wife never said anything as long as all the bills were paid and there was food on the table. i've slowed way down on my own because i finally realized that the big pull is always in that next pack and there is a new pack around every corner. use your head and things will work out.

 

[mchenrycards]

As others have said...make sure you are 100% transparent and tell her everything right up front. After you do this make sure she knows where every dollar you receive went to. The only way for you to ever overcome this issue is honesty and transparency. Make yourself a budget and present it to her AND stick to it. My wife and I have been married for nearly 18 years and went through some financial issues a few years back. Just to show her how serious I was to have her see where every dollar went I got a receipt for absolutly everything. If I bought a donut I got a receipt. I paid for gas I asked for a receipt. I went over our bank acount with her on a weekly basis and reconciled the account with the receipts. It took a long time before she trusted me again but now we are probably in the best place we have ever been marriage wise.

If I was you I would tell her everything, make a budget and ASK HER to check your progress on the budget and your money skills on a weekly basis. Make her sit down with you so she can see you are not screwing up the money again...this might be a tough step! This will allow her to feel she has some control over the siutation by being able to see where your money is going. You will have to give her some control on this or she will never trust you again. Just make sure you dont hide any of those paypal funds that you receive from Ebay sales because if she finds out about them all trust will be gone.

I have been there. pm or email me if you need to talk or compare notes!!

 

[mchenrycards]

My wife knows I have a problem with cards

But her problems are worse so she doesn't say anything

Wow thats healthy!! LOL

 

[zookerman182]

My wife knows I have a problem with cards

But her problems are worse so she doesn't say anything

I love this!

I have been married for a year and a half and i knew going in that whatever i did was gonna be wrong and whatever she does is always right. Thats just the way of the world.

About the settling down part. That just depends on what type of person she is. I think this is something that should be forgotten by here within a week or so and then dropped all together. If she leaves this hanging over your head and keeps giving you low blows by bringing it up when its clear you know what you did was bad and you are trying to fix it, then i think she may be going too far. In my opinion.

Goodluck man

 

[bigredmachine]

Women dont like men to have hobbies. Ones that involve money are the worst. The only hobby they want you to have is taking care of them. Pay off your debt and work it out. Never pay for cards with credit. Do things smart but dont give up your hobby. If she wont let you keep collecting divorce her unless she is really hot.

 

[HPC]

My wife knows I have a problem with cards

But her problems are worse so she doesn't say anything

About the settling down part. That just depends on what type of person she is. I think this is something that should be forgotten by here within a week or so and then dropped all together. If she leaves this hanging over your head and keeps giving you low blows by bringing it up when its clear you know what you did was bad and you are trying to fix it, then i think she may be going too far. In my opinion.

Goodluck man

I was going to say this same thing, but couldnt word it correctly without coming off as a dick.

I agree with what was said above.

If she cant move past it and let it go, it may be time to let go

 

[js0000001]

Women dont like men to have hobbies. Ones that involve money are the worst. The only hobby they want you to have is taking care of them. Pay off your debt and work it out. Never pay for cards with credit. Do things smart but dont give up your hobby. If she wont let you keep collecting divorce her unless she is really hot.

I think it matters less if shes hot

Its more important that's she is uninhibited

 

[bozemanbreaker]

My wife knows I have a problem with cards

But her problems are worse so she doesn't say anything

About the settling down part. That just depends on what type of person she is. I think this is something that should be forgotten by here within a week or so and then dropped all together. If she leaves this hanging over your head and keeps giving you low blows by bringing it up when its clear you know what you did was bad and you are trying to fix it, then i think she may be going too far. In my opinion.

Goodluck man

I was going to say this same thing, but couldnt word it correctly without coming off as a dick.

I agree with what was said above.

If she cant move past it and let it go, it may be time to let go

She's not going too far, she's giving him notice about how dumb he is being. I love this hobby, but hell if I can't afford cards with cash, then I'm not going to buy any.

Going into debt for cards is just stupid and not worth it.

The guy is doing the right thing buy selling off his cards, and getting out of debt. Now go fix your marriage buddy.

 

[JackLondon]

My wife knows I have a problem with cards

But her problems are worse so she doesn't say anything

About the settling down part. That just depends on what type of person she is. I think this is something that should be forgotten by here within a week or so and then dropped all together. If she leaves this hanging over your head and keeps giving you low blows by bringing it up when its clear you know what you did was bad and you are trying to fix it, then i think she may be going too far. In my opinion.

Goodluck man

I was going to say this same thing, but couldnt word it correctly without coming off as a dick.

I agree with what was said above.

If she cant move past it and let it go, it may be time to let go

So you guys think that he should go ahead with a divorce over trading cards!? What's wrong with you guys ::facepalm::

There are some things more important than this hobby and marriage in my mind is one of them.

Dude is doing the right thing by getting out of the hobby for awhile, getting out of debt, and trying to fix his marriage.

Well-said.